You've Been Carrying This for a While
You're exhausted in ways that sleep doesn't fix. Your mind races through scenarios, conversations, worst-case outcomes, and quieting it feels impossible. Maybe you've been holding everything together for so long that you've forgotten what it feels like to actually be okay, rather than just performing okay for everyone around you.
You might be navigating a new diagnosis that's shifted how you see yourself and your future. Or carrying the weight of existing in spaces that weren't designed for you, the constant code-switching, the microaggressions, the exhaustion of being "other" in a world that centers sameness.
Perhaps you've tried therapy before, but spent more time educating your therapist than actually getting support. Or you've wondered if your struggles are "bad enough" to deserve help in the first place.
If this sounds familiar, you're in the right place.
Meet Kamillah Gray
I'm Kamillah Gray, a licensed professional counselor providing virtual therapy throughout Virginia.
Credentials: LPC, 0701013055
I'm also a Black, queer, neurodivergent person living with chronic illness. I mention this not as a marketing angle, but because it shapes everything about how I show up in this work. I don't just serve marginalized communities, I belong to them.
My approach is grounded in the belief that you already have wisdom inside you. I'm not here to fix you or tell you what to do. I'm here to help you find your own answers, at your own pace, in a space where you don't have to perform or pretend.
I show up as my authentic self, piercings and all, because if I'm asking you to be real with me, I need to be real with you.
Why I Do This Work
I was transformed by therapy as a teenager. It showed me that change was possible, that I wasn't beyond help, and that having support could make navigating hard things feel less impossible. That experience is why I chose this profession, not from academic interest alone, but from lived conviction.
I've navigated my own anxiety, depression, and complex trauma. I know what it's like to exist in a body and mind that the world doesn't quite accommodate. Living with chronic illness has taught me about grief, adaptation, and the importance of building a life that works with my limitations rather than against them.
These experiences don't make me an expert on your life. But they do mean I understand certain things without needing them explained. And that understanding shapes how I hold space for the people I work with.
What Therapy With Me Feels Like
Therapy here is collaborative. We figure things out together, with you in the lead. You decide what we work on, how deep we go, and what pace feels right. My role is to offer tools, reflection, and the occasional reality check when you need it, all wrapped in genuine care.
Sessions feel like a conversation with someone who's truly paying attention. There's no pressure to have the right words or arrive with a clear agenda. Sometimes we'll dig into something heavy. Sometimes you might just need space to breathe and be heard.
I bring warmth and honesty in equal measure. I'll celebrate your wins and sit with you in the hard stuff. I won't push you faster than feels safe, and I won't pretend things are fine when they're not.
What clients often notice is a sense of finally being able to exhale. Of being seen without having to translate their experience. Of feeling steadier, even when things are still hard.
Who I Work With
I work best with people who have felt like outsiders, the self-described "weirdos" who've never quite fit the mainstream mold. My practice is built for those who are tired of being misunderstood and ready for a therapist who actually gets it.
I specialize in supporting:
✧ BIPOC individuals, particularly Black women and femmes, navigating racism and systemic stress
✧ 2SLGBTQIA+ folks at any stage of their identity journey
✧ Neurodivergent adults (autistic, ADHD) who need strategies that work for their actual brains
✧ People living with chronic illness or disability, especially those with recent diagnoses
✧ Highly sensitive people who've been told they're "too much"
✧ Anyone struggling with anxiety, self-criticism, or the pressure to constantly perform
If you've wondered whether a therapist could truly understand your experience without extensive explanation, this space was built with you in mind.
What Makes This Space Different
Clients often tell me they felt safe from the first conversation. That something about how I show up, my presence, my communication, my visible alternativeness, signaled that this was a space where they could actually be themselves.
Here's what you can expect:
- Understanding that's built in, not learned on the job
- A therapist who won't pathologize your differences or push toxic positivity
- Acknowledgment that systemic issues are real, not everything is an individual problem to solve
- Space to rest without earning it or justifying it
- Warmth without performance, honesty without harshness
- Practical support alongside emotional processing (including gender-affirming care letters)
- Permission to show up messy, uncertain, and completely human
When You're Ready to Start
If something here resonated, I'd love to hear from you. Reaching out doesn't commit you to anything, it's just a conversation to see if we're a good fit.
You don't need to have the right words or know exactly what you need. You can come as you are.
